Second chance

We have only one life and we should make it as best as possible. It’s nothing special, that we all making mistakes, from different reasons. We also have to remember, that life is simple, only people makes it difficult. Life is simple, also doesn’t mean it’s easy and pleasant, sometimes we have to make hard choices.
When someone will do something wrong or against us, we can get angry and now, the question is what to do? What is the best solution? Of course everything dependns from situation and circumstances. In most situations we can discuss and explain what and why had happened. Consequences are the next step. Mistakes can happen to anyone, we should understand this, because it can happen also to ourselves. Maybe not exactly the same thing, but it doesn’t change a fact. People are different, they think different, so it’s possible, that someone made mistake because, didn’t realised what it means for us. No matter the reason is, we can give second chance or not, it’s depends from us.
It’s about being good, forgiveness and so kind… but be careful, because second chance not always mean: ok I’m forgiving you, try again.
This may happen once and only once. The person have chance to change and now everything depends from this person. Remember, no excuses this time.
Because when you will give another chance for the same mistake, you are not giving a chance at all. If you want to say, it’s good to forgive that’s why I’m giving you one more chance, you are doing something bad. I’m very serious about that.
When someone f… up, there is only one chance, each next one, mean, that you are allowing this person for doing it over and over again. If someone used his chance and still doing the same mistakes, there is very small probability to change it.
The next chance in this case is to not allowing for reapiting this situation, is to end this.
In other way, this person won’t change and will be encouraged even more to keep this kind of behaviour, because will know, another chance is avalible.
For better example let’s take relationship. When partner is cheating on you and it was once, you can forgive and give a chance. Here partner have two options.
First, to change and stop cheating, keeping in mind, that partner’s trust is lost and have to work to rebuild it.
Second, to make empty promises but still cheating behind your back.
There is also third option, but it’s more like variety of the second one. Partner will stop cheating for some time and rebuild trust, then start cheating again.
When partner is still cheating, the only chance for change is to end relationship. Otherwise partner will recive “permission” for cheating and lose respect to you.
If you put yourself in this situation, then you are hurting yourself and your partner too.
You have to decide, is it ok for you, to be cheated, or no. Complaining and arguing with your partner doesn’t change a fact, that in reality, you are allowing for this situation exists.
When you decide to finish relationship, you are giving clear signal, what for you is right and what for you is wrong.
When you decide to end relationship, you are giving a chance to your partner for change, because your partner then, is losing you and only this can be a reason to see, that this kind of behaviour is not allowed and recived chance is wasted.
In other words, if first chance to change didn’t worked, second have to be different.
You cannot change someone, who don’t want it by himself.
Other example can be about work.
If you are the boss, and you catch your worker on stealing, you can give him a second chance (first was hiring him, in relationship, first chance is being with you) and keep your employee at work.
But if your worker will steal again, will he stop when you give him another chance?
After first time, your employee should try as best as possible and proof he is worth of trust.
If the situation is repeat again, the other chance for this worker is to fired him.
Maybe in next job he will not do it again, realising the consequences.
Don’t allow for stealing, it’s not good for both, boss and employee. If you know, that your worker is in difficult situation, there are other things to help, but never allow people to consider wrong behaviour can be justified.

Demoralizating others is not a good thing, it’s harmful for them, their families and rest of society.


Chaos of thoughts

In my mind, everything seem to be so clear and in best order. Problems starts when it comes to write my thoughts wherever, on paper or here, doesn’t matter. My thoughts start to jump in my mind, cannot stay calm, speeding faster than the bullet, faster than sound. I’m writing one thing and another thought is waiting to be wrote, different idea comes same time and everything want to go out. My thoughts simply don’t like to wait in queue, each one want to be first.
When it is too much, when it’s something personal, I’m trying to run out from sorrow thoughts, looking for this kind of enterteinment, where I will have to pay a lot attention, which make me like mindless zombie for a few moments in hope to forget. But I’m never forgetting, personal things and memories stays with me and taking everysingle breath of my life, don’t let me to sleep. I don’t even know what is worst, nightmares dreaming when I’m sleeping, or in reality. So I’m trying to run away from this thoughts, looking for others, focus on different case, it’s helpless. It’s works only for a moment.
Personal disaster can change you and your life forever. It’s a real blessing when you have someone around you who is able to help you during bad times. But don’t abuse someone’s time and patience. Sometimes we just need an outside impulse to move on. Sometimes we need to deal with this, what happened in our life. Just don’t give up, even in worst moment. Try to set your mind and adjust to new circumstances. No one says it’s easy, don’t have to be rush, just don’t weep too much, tragedies happens around the World incessantly and put people in some situations, that is hard to imagine.
Look for joyce, even in smallest things, one single ray of light can bring a smile. When you lost everything, when you have nothing, everything counts.

Fantasy and Imagination

Living in rush, day by day can easily make us fall into routine. To avoid it, we need to develop our fantasy and imagination. Somehow people today are more about to wait for ready solution or advice what and how to do, than people living centuries ago. Maybe a lot of things in present life comes to easy. It’s just enough to put searching thing into browser and you will get DIY advisor. But this is not the solution. Of course it’s good and useful, but as long it’s only about copy someone’s idea, as long we will not develop our imagination. Some people can say, that is not about their nature. Here is my advise, keep on practice, you risk nothing, but can make your life more interesting and satisfying.
Look back in the past, when people had no internet, no tv, no radio, no entertainment.
Such a great art they’ve made, such a great architecture, not even mention about their sexual life and fantasies, especially those who had some possibility like nobility or royalty.
If you like to be bored, or in routine, or tired, that’s ok. But, if you want to change it, keep in mind to practice your imagination, try to not looking for ready solution, find your own, it cost you nothing.
Just do it your way.

Generation “Instant”

In the past, before civilization people was working to survive. Their work was hunting, gathering and with time services starts to be developed more and more. It was still about survive. Maybe it’s too much to call services, what it was on the begining, because it was more about roles sharing, with time and meeting other groups of people, they was exchanging required goods. It was still about to survive, but also makes surviving easier. Going with time services had developed much more about making our life easier and comfortable.
Today we have possibility to lead comfortable life much bigger than ever before.
People now are living in rush following for something what have bring them happiness. They’re collecting goods, trying to make everything easier, nicer, comfortable etc.
People are often abusing to work harder and longer for small amount of money. It lead to live in rush, which make us to search for solutions to handle with this. So now we have a lot of things “instant”. It’s so helpful, we don’t have to spend a lot of time on doing some stuff we need, we can guy it ready to use, it’s so awesome. Now we don’t even have to go for shopping, because we have delivery and we don’t even have to call for it, it’s just enough to pick required things only by one click. Isn’t amazing?
I have to say it’s absolutely useful, but where is the limit? Where is the point, from it start to be too much? When life start to be too easy, it’s not so hard to abuse it.
When we have everything ready and served without any effort it stopping to be satisfying and also may lead to loose some abilities.
It may be ability of cooking or ability of communication. We can observe the second example very easily today. People getting bigger problems to describe their own feelings and thoughts, they are waiting for ready answer and they are definitely abusing “thumb up” and “like” buttons.
Anything is all about, it’s enough to click this damn button and it’s done, everybody happy. It’s doesn’t matter is it about any tragedy, someone’s death, flood or any other situation. One click is just enough, why to make some effort to think or write something from depth of your mind/heart/soul. Who said everything have to be deep, when we live on the surface of shallow World…

Does size matters?

I will try to give not so shallow answer as the title is.
Let’s start from this, that everything depends fromsomething. Our point of view may change, depending on various factors, expectations or informations.
What it have to do about size?
Whether it is about lenght, thickness, hight or anything else it may lose all the matter, when you will fall into infatuation, enchantment.
For this example, let’s call it love. So, love blinds us, we don’t see anything else except beloved person, then it’s doesn’t matter about size or anything else and everything is awesome. When infatuation goes away, we may see some things we didn’t see before.
Once again, it’s not about size, but about everything. We start to see small things and differences between us and our characters. Then it’s important how much, we fits to each other. When enchantment is gone, we start to look at relationship in different way. We may look more on own needs and satisfaction more. If we used to partner, it may have no or at least not big matter about size, but more about how good we feel together.
But when this is strictly about sexual, then everything matters, lenght, thickness and skills. This is for both, women and men as well. When this is about sexuality, men also look at woman assessing her sizes. It shows how shallow we are, when it is about physical contacts (and not only). Even then are other things, which can change situation into more emotional and as more emotional is the contact as less other things matters.
Anyway, the worst thing we can do, no matter women or men, is care too much about such things like size or shape. Know your value, which is not to be measured by size.
Stay away from complexes, it doesn’t help in anything, but can spoil a lot. If you are trying to be in a relationship, look for someone valuable, who is not looking at you only physicly and about sexuality. Ok, it’s important in relationship, but how much?
I will appreciate if all readers write in comments what and how much is important in relationship. What is the most important and what is the least important?
Thank you all and take care.

Does men only think about sex?

Catchy title? I hope to get your attention dear reader and I will not leave it without answer.
I wonder does it make sense to write all these things, to put here all my thoughts, if the only readers are people who actually know what I’m writing about and understand the matter of morality and know how to chose what is right and what is wrong.
Am I changing anything?
There are at least two positives effects of it.
Other people around the World, who are thinking in similar way, can see, that they are not alone even if their society doesn’t understand thier point of view. It can make someone, somewhere to feel better, stronger, to find strenght inside when everything seem to be in opposite. So yes, I hope my writing can/is helpful for others.
The other positive I see, is deeper thinking and in many varities about touching subject, which can lead to better understanding of case.
I suppose, that all of you already know the answer on title question.
It is NO, men doesn’t think about sex all the time. There are other things to think about and to do. However in some situations when man will recive an sexual impulse (even when it’s only in his mind) he can start to think this way. But it’s not all the time, not every four minutes or anything like that.
Have a nice day/night wherever you are and take care.

Another death…

For the public is different when someone famous is dying.
Fame and show business industry can be overwhelming, no matter how long you are in it.
On example of Linkin Park, over twenty years passed just like that. The years spent with people, with friends. No matter how close we are, we don’t know what is in someone’s head. Chester’s death is another one, which lead me to ask, how much do we care about all those, who are around us and might need some help?
How much we are about to respond I’m fine?
People have own problems, own cases and sometimes may not be willing to hear another probems. Often we are like “keep on smiling, everything is fine” or “everything will be fine”.
Maybe we are just unable to look deeper into other people feelings?
Beeing famous or/and rich, does it such a great life?