The future’s past

I woke up and opened my eyes to see, that the yesterday’s tomorrow is today.
When yesterday was today, expiration date seemed to be far away.
But now, today is the future and tomorrow will be today.
We are living now, always now, always today, there is no other option.
Our perspective is small and makes hard for us to see small changes happening around in present reality.
Future smoothly turnes into past, but we still are trapped in present day.
Every moment of life is happening now.
Distant future of tomorrow can be disappointing for the people, who thought about it yesterday.
When I’m looking back into years and centuries, I see people were expecting so different World of today.
What we are expecting from tomorrow?
Tomorrow will be today, next day…

Ignorance

“Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance” – Confucius

I wonder, what does it mean to be a human?
Through all history, each generation of mankind thought about their own generation as of the greatest one.
It seems, that ignorance supported with self confidence leads to self imagination of being the best. After Dunning-Kruger effect, we can divide awareness on four stages.
1 – unaware of self incompetence
2 – aware of self incompetence
3 – unaware of self competence
4 – aware of self competence

If we apply these stages to our awareness of primal instincts and ability to control it, we will receive this scheme:
1 – unaware of being under influence of primal instincts and inability to control it
2 – aware of fact, that we are under the influence of primal instincts, but still unable to control it
3 – aware of primal instincts, but unaware ability to control it
4 – aware of primal instincts and being able to control it

Where we are now? Probably at stage 2. We know, that primal instincts do exists and have impact on our everyday life, but are we able to control it? When I’m looking at people, on this what is happening around the World, or at myself, I think we are far away from it. Firstable it’s hard to take control over primal instincts. Enough to look back, how much we changed since known history. Sciencehas been changed, technology has been changed, our lifestyle has been changed, but our behaviour and reasons of our acts did not. Are we smarter than few thousands years ago? In some areas of life and science, yes. But when I’m looking on it like this: thousands of years passed and we are still competitive instead of being cooperative. We still have some small and shallow reasons to make this World not friendly for living. It’s only one Planet in our solar system, which gives life friendly conditions, and what we are doing with it? How we are using it? Do we respect what we have received?
How do we are using all natural sources?
How do we treat each other?
How do we treat, even ourselves?
I think, that our behaviour is basing on few factors and it will not change quickly.
People call for something, when it’s about themselves, but ignore it when it’s about others. People seems to like utopian ideas, forgeting it’s impossible. There is no such things as freedom and justice, there are only compromises. Even compromises are hard to stand for people, but it’s probably, because, they don’t understand some of them, how it is like this and why. We are selfish, yes we are. We see our needs, our feelings, our memories and everything what we can call our in so different way than any other person, but it’s natural. We all are different.
Let’s go back to freedom and justice in only one example.
If it’s allowed to smoke cigarettes, one person is smoking, but the other one don’t like it, can we call this is freedom and justice. It’s small and simple example, but I think it’s enough to point how much our life is about compromises and smart solving problems and if we will be unable to solve small problems like this, then how we gonna deal with big ones?
Primal instintcs was important for people for long time, which was helpful to save their lives. Even today some of those instincts are important, but I think, it would be good to learn how to control it and use properly when it’s needed.
I know it’s easy to say and it might be another utopian idea, but I think it’s worth to try becoming better, even when we know it’s impossible to become the perfect.
There is a lot of things to keep in mind, like trying too hard can lead you to frustration…
Does it make any sense, or I’m talking crap?
I don’t know, maybe I’m too tired, maybe it’s just too hot and I’m writing in some kind of insanity…
How can I know that, if I will not confront it with others?
Or does it possible, to know you are right by yourself?
Is it not just another time when it’s about ignorance and confidence?

The cult of body

I’m looking back in the past and I see, that some things didn’t change so much til present day. We like to think about our selves as inteligent and open minded generation, but how we really are? In ancient Greece people like to admire human body, beautiful proportions and shapes. Even in medival time, people had their definition of a beauty which referred directly to the body. Today we have some competitions where people are chosing most beautiful man or woman, but only in context of the body.
If I will treat my body as a temple, shouldn’t I care more of, what this temple is all about?
Aren’t we pay too much attention to our bodies as body by itself?
I know some people, some companies are making good business on it, but there are people suffering because they’re trying to follow after the body cult.
A lot of complexes and some disorders like anorexia can have effort even in adult life.
So what to say, when it’s about childhood or youthful age.
Who you are by your mind, define your value more, than who you are by your body or job. How you are thinking have much more matter than how you look.
Are we so shallow to see only bodies, or can we look deeper and see human?
How far we are from our primal instincts…?

I’m tired

No matter what I’ll write, how I will provoke, people here like it or not reacting. Is it so unique society here? Why it cannot be on entire World like this? What is wrong with the people? I really have enough of stupidity and other lower instincs, which leading to conflicts.

Nobody likes me

Todays World is so much about being nice to the others, that it’s sometimes make people to lie to you straight in your face. All because not hurting someone else feelings. That is so great. When is something wrong, I want to know about it and when I realise, that nobody told me nothing, I’m thinking “what is wrong with all those people”
Sometimes I think, honesty have lost its value.
Asking people for honesty may cause you will hear something, what you don’t want to hear. However, being honest, doesn’t mean to be rude, but also you don’t have to behave like a “sweet pussycat”, afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. It’s really not about it. Be honest, but also think.
Today’s people are like “keep on smiling” society, yeah everything is cool. Well, not, it isn’t.
Somebody ask you how he/she look in some clothes, is good to say how it really is.
If someone is wrong about soething and you know about it, why not to tell him about it?
Is it better to let him make mistake? Of course we are learning on mistakes, but without making mistakes we are also able to learn.
It’s happening even here, where people are writing and reading everyday. You may think, they have to be smart people. So look at comments sections. Most of it is like encouragement and agreement. It’s make me not sure, does people are really reading?
But I don’t know, maybe it’s something wrong with me.
Am I the only one who wnat discussion instead of sweetening?

When “too much” means “not good”

Do we understand well, what “do your best” really means?
When we are trying to achieve something and work as hard as possible and really do what is necessary for it, or even more and still not getting closer to reach our goal, then obviously, something is wrong. We may even not see this and think, that everything is ok, until one day. How is that possible?
How is possible to work so hard, do our best and to not see something is going wrong?
When we put too much effort, when we are trying too much, then it’s easy to lose perspective and miss a lot of things happens around us.
For example, I don’t have to write long posts, when the message is clear and understandable.
What for? Is it the point, to get people bored of reading, when it’s too much?
Is it the point to get people tired of you, when you are asking them every time about something, when for them is too much?
Trying too hard, doing too much is a trap!
Take a break, get perspective, find the balance.

Second chance

We have only one life and we should make it as best as possible. It’s nothing special, that we all making mistakes, from different reasons. We also have to remember, that life is simple, only people makes it difficult. Life is simple, also doesn’t mean it’s easy and pleasant, sometimes we have to make hard choices.
When someone will do something wrong or against us, we can get angry and now, the question is what to do? What is the best solution? Of course everything dependns from situation and circumstances. In most situations we can discuss and explain what and why had happened. Consequences are the next step. Mistakes can happen to anyone, we should understand this, because it can happen also to ourselves. Maybe not exactly the same thing, but it doesn’t change a fact. People are different, they think different, so it’s possible, that someone made mistake because, didn’t realised what it means for us. No matter the reason is, we can give second chance or not, it’s depends from us.
It’s about being good, forgiveness and so kind… but be careful, because second chance not always mean: ok I’m forgiving you, try again.
This may happen once and only once. The person have chance to change and now everything depends from this person. Remember, no excuses this time.
Because when you will give another chance for the same mistake, you are not giving a chance at all. If you want to say, it’s good to forgive that’s why I’m giving you one more chance, you are doing something bad. I’m very serious about that.
When someone f… up, there is only one chance, each next one, mean, that you are allowing this person for doing it over and over again. If someone used his chance and still doing the same mistakes, there is very small probability to change it.
The next chance in this case is to not allowing for reapiting this situation, is to end this.
In other way, this person won’t change and will be encouraged even more to keep this kind of behaviour, because will know, another chance is avalible.
For better example let’s take relationship. When partner is cheating on you and it was once, you can forgive and give a chance. Here partner have two options.
First, to change and stop cheating, keeping in mind, that partner’s trust is lost and have to work to rebuild it.
Second, to make empty promises but still cheating behind your back.
There is also third option, but it’s more like variety of the second one. Partner will stop cheating for some time and rebuild trust, then start cheating again.
When partner is still cheating, the only chance for change is to end relationship. Otherwise partner will recive “permission” for cheating and lose respect to you.
If you put yourself in this situation, then you are hurting yourself and your partner too.
You have to decide, is it ok for you, to be cheated, or no. Complaining and arguing with your partner doesn’t change a fact, that in reality, you are allowing for this situation exists.
When you decide to finish relationship, you are giving clear signal, what for you is right and what for you is wrong.
When you decide to end relationship, you are giving a chance to your partner for change, because your partner then, is losing you and only this can be a reason to see, that this kind of behaviour is not allowed and recived chance is wasted.
In other words, if first chance to change didn’t worked, second have to be different.
You cannot change someone, who don’t want it by himself.
Other example can be about work.
If you are the boss, and you catch your worker on stealing, you can give him a second chance (first was hiring him, in relationship, first chance is being with you) and keep your employee at work.
But if your worker will steal again, will he stop when you give him another chance?
After first time, your employee should try as best as possible and proof he is worth of trust.
If the situation is repeat again, the other chance for this worker is to fired him.
Maybe in next job he will not do it again, realising the consequences.
Don’t allow for stealing, it’s not good for both, boss and employee. If you know, that your worker is in difficult situation, there are other things to help, but never allow people to consider wrong behaviour can be justified.

Demoralizating others is not a good thing, it’s harmful for them, their families and rest of society.