Wonderland in reality

I’ve never thought about UK as for a special country like some people used to saying is such a amazing place to live. Well, as I’m observing it now a new person in UK can earn 1061£ (after tax), when price for rent a flat starts from around 700£ (for 1 and 2 bedroom flat). Add costs of traveling to work, costs of food (depending on many factors and/or person). For example using public transport to drive around 8miles (12,8km) will cost you 4,2£ when it’s one way ticket (single) or 7£ when it’s round-trip (return).
Fuel costs around 1,2£ per 1l so it seem to be cheaper to use a car, even after taking into account insurance and tax road fees (depending from type of car, year of production etc.).
What about food costs? Well, food is not expensive, for example: 1liter of milk costs around 80pence but when you will buy 3.4L then you will pay only 1,5£.
White bread 800g costs from 50p to 2£, 400g chocolate spread costs from 80p to 3£, 1l of fruit juice starts from less than 1£. Also price reductions are very popular here.Often when you will buy more, you will receive better price. For example when 1l of fruit juice costs 1£ then buy 3 pay 2.5£ or buy 1 get 1 free, buy 2 get one half price, etc.

Living in UK for a single person doesn’t seem to be amazing, this why many people here are doing overtimes or trying to receive benefits from Council.
I’ve met two young men who came to UK 8 years ago and now, after all this time they will receive contract directly from company they work for. In my opinion, there is no need to wait so long to be hired directly by company. I think, that vey important is to let people to know you, to speak with other people instead of looking after your countrymen.
When you’re looking for your countrymen and talk only with them, then you are isolating yourself and minimize your chances at work.
I was living and working in UK five years ago, for around half year, only the difference was, that I wanted to see some places in UK and for that time, the best solution was to live and work here. I knew, that I came here only for few months and I used to worked hired by agency. They was sending me from one place to another wherever an additional worker was needed. However owner of one of the factory that I used to work in, when I was about to go back home, he said, that whenever I’ll come back to UK I can just come to this factory and I’ll be hired directly by him.
This is why I think, that a lot depends from people it self, just prove what you are worth, show what you can do and respect other people.

For couples and families is just easier here, but from experience which I gained it’s like this in most places if not all.
Anyway, it’s really nice to me, that I’ve changed surrounding environment. Life here is like anywhere else, work here is like anywhere else, but I feel relief.
I hope to hear from you what you think about living and woking  abroad and what is your experience with it.

Have a nice day.

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Welcome to Wonderland

Many people are looking on United Kingdom as at the place of great opportunities.
Does Great Britain is realy so great as people want to see it?
I’ve arrived here just two weeks ago, so it’s hard to say how the life in UK will look for me. What can I say at this moment is after beeing team leader manager for car wash company and had three car wash stations under my commandment I got the job here also on the car wash but as usual worker who will wash the cars.
In this country, your previous experience as long it’s not a high position in global company it’s doesn’t matter. You have to start from the bottom and prove your value. However it’s nothing unusual at work, that you have to prove your value if you want get promotion, so I’m ok with that.
Why I quit from good position in my home country?
To answear for this question I have to go back to the time when my life falled into pieces I was self employed but the occurring situation couses me mental and emotional crisis so much, that even could take care about my self and to say to managing the business.
I closed it without looking on any losts and started to work in car wash just to run from my thoughts.
Now, when I’m divorced and feel a lot better I was looking to change surrounding enviroment, to start everything all over and here I’m.
It’s my way to move on without places that will bring memories, so in this case UK look like Wonderland and make easy to open new chapter of my life.

Have a nice day.

The power of value

Have you ever wonder what is the greatest power in the entire World?
I think it’s the power of unity. United people can be unstoppable force…
But I don’t think is possible to unite humanity. We all have different values and for some reason it’s very hard for us to reach agreement or at least compromise. There always will be some people, who would like to rule and dictates conditions to the others of how to live and what is right or wrong. Those who desire power will do what they can to keep people (societies) divided. The reason is simple, when society is divided then is easier to rule. Divided society is just weak, not speak with one voice, not demand changes for better living and is easier to be steering by rulers. Divided society fighting against each other in effect of manipulation, without searching for logical solutions and compromises.
If I will ask, what is most valueable for you? there will be different answers, this is one of the reasons why we have to live in some compromises and respect to each other as much as selfrespect. It will also help to not abuse other people. Sometimes we by ourselves agree to being abused, because of the situation, because we want something.
Why we have to work? To live? To pay for food and for a house? To pay for anything?
So we are selling ourselves, because someone said so.
Why we have to pay? Because someone said so. Because someone made the rules, which had to be fair. But where it leaded us? What does it created? Greed.
Yes, yes, I know, money are needed for many reasons and they are easy to calculate value of everything. But is it really “of everything”? Does everything is on sale?
Money and other things are worth only this what we can give for it.
You want to find what is the real value of oney, then take as much as you can and go there where is no other man lives. Then you will find out what your money gives to you.
People are the power and the value, but we forgetting about this so often.
Respect and take care about people. Do you respect yourself? Do you want to be respected? How you want to be treated?
Of course I’m taking money for my work, but it doesn’t matter for me, how much I will earn, I will always do my best. Why? Because I’m doing it for the others and I will not do something what can harm someone.
Ok, World is not perfect place, because of our weaknesses, ignorance and arrogance.
Some people think, that they are better than others, some other think they are worse.
But we are just different. I know that some people are sick, violent, have mental problems, but this is not the point. The worst situation is when those people get the power to rule, then bad things are happening.
So what we can do? We can unite, at least in some particular things.
I know, this what I’m writing is like utopia, but do we really like this World how it is?
Cannot we make it a better place? Everything depends from us, not from U.S., but from US, us people.
How will look any reform, country or anything without people?
How will look war when soldiers from each side will refuse to fight? There will be no war, because who will fight? Our great leaders? No way, they are only strong to tell us what to do, how to live and to send soldiers to the front, to kill each other.
Are we so different to kill each other? Are we the enemies to each others?
Are we really so different, that we can accept it and live together on same planet? Is it really so hard? What is wrong with us?
Only rulers wants wars and convincing people, that it’s good. So if the rulers want to fight, let them fight with them selves, but let people to live their lifes.
What kind of reform will work without people? Only people are the factor which make the difference and things to work, not empty words and promises of politicians.
We, simple people, nations, societies, we have the real power, but we give this power to our governments…
We want governments to work for good of people and nation, to live in the place where is justice and where we can feel free and be happy. But because of some people we can’t enjoy it, as much as we should. There is always somone who brings oppression is it government or criminals or boss at work, who want us to work faster and longer and it will be the best if we will work for free…
Do I think my post will change something? I don’t think it will change the World, but maybe it will make that some of us will start look different on some things in life.
Maybe some will think a little bit about this what is valueable and accept, that for someone else, it can have different value. However it dosen’t mean to not respect values of others.
No matter where on this planet we live,we can be different, but we are not the enemies.
Let’s respect each other, it can make a big difference.

Set your mood

It’s another post inspired by someone else post (what a great writing).
This time is from My book life by Naya
https://nayasfairytale.wordpress.com/2017/08/13/organization-tips-for-the-busy-college-student-%EF%BB%BF/comment-page-1/#comment-1727

It’s important and helpful to organize your day schedule well and you can find useful tips for it on Naya post, but there is something more what I want to add.

When you are about to go to bed, set your mood positive, you can do a lot of things with your thoughts. You can think about next day, or day, which just passed or anything as long it will set you positive. We can be tired or have many problems, stress etc. but for the short moment before you go to sleep, think about something good, it can change a lot.

The second thing is the thing what you are doing in the morning. Who like to wake up with the thought it’s another busy day (school or job)? You can set reminder in your phone with something positive to think about it when you just open your eyes, it really gives energy and set good mood. Find pleasure in small things and learn to admire surrounding beauty.
Someone can say, how to expect any beauty around, when you are at war or any other bad happening, but sometimes these small things you can find around you, may help you to survive bad times. Talk to people who had experience terrible things and ask them about it. During bad bad times, the hope can be like a miracle.

Third thing is to spread your positive mood and energy and it will come back to you.
Small things can do a lot, it’s enough to smile kindly to someone to make this person feel nice. You will find out how nice, when you will recive smile back to you too.

Ok, now it’s a little summary:
1 – think about nice things before bed time
2 – think about nice things when you wake up
3 – smile, it cost you nothing and can make big difference

I would like if you let me know after few days, how it works for you 🙂
Take care.

Nobody likes me

Todays World is so much about being nice to the others, that it’s sometimes make people to lie to you straight in your face. All because not hurting someone else feelings. That is so great. When is something wrong, I want to know about it and when I realise, that nobody told me nothing, I’m thinking “what is wrong with all those people”
Sometimes I think, honesty have lost its value.
Asking people for honesty may cause you will hear something, what you don’t want to hear. However, being honest, doesn’t mean to be rude, but also you don’t have to behave like a “sweet pussycat”, afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. It’s really not about it. Be honest, but also think.
Today’s people are like “keep on smiling” society, yeah everything is cool. Well, not, it isn’t.
Somebody ask you how he/she look in some clothes, is good to say how it really is.
If someone is wrong about soething and you know about it, why not to tell him about it?
Is it better to let him make mistake? Of course we are learning on mistakes, but without making mistakes we are also able to learn.
It’s happening even here, where people are writing and reading everyday. You may think, they have to be smart people. So look at comments sections. Most of it is like encouragement and agreement. It’s make me not sure, does people are really reading?
But I don’t know, maybe it’s something wrong with me.
Am I the only one who wnat discussion instead of sweetening?

When “too much” means “not good”

Do we understand well, what “do your best” really means?
When we are trying to achieve something and work as hard as possible and really do what is necessary for it, or even more and still not getting closer to reach our goal, then obviously, something is wrong. We may even not see this and think, that everything is ok, until one day. How is that possible?
How is possible to work so hard, do our best and to not see something is going wrong?
When we put too much effort, when we are trying too much, then it’s easy to lose perspective and miss a lot of things happens around us.
For example, I don’t have to write long posts, when the message is clear and understandable.
What for? Is it the point, to get people bored of reading, when it’s too much?
Is it the point to get people tired of you, when you are asking them every time about something, when for them is too much?
Trying too hard, doing too much is a trap!
Take a break, get perspective, find the balance.