Set your mood

It’s another post inspired by someone else post (what a great writing).
This time is from My book life by Naya
https://nayasfairytale.wordpress.com/2017/08/13/organization-tips-for-the-busy-college-student-%EF%BB%BF/comment-page-1/#comment-1727

It’s important and helpful to organize your day schedule well and you can find useful tips for it on Naya post, but there is something more what I want to add.

When you are about to go to bed, set your mood positive, you can do a lot of things with your thoughts. You can think about next day, or day, which just passed or anything as long it will set you positive. We can be tired or have many problems, stress etc. but for the short moment before you go to sleep, think about something good, it can change a lot.

The second thing is the thing what you are doing in the morning. Who like to wake up with the thought it’s another busy day (school or job)? You can set reminder in your phone with something positive to think about it when you just open your eyes, it really gives energy and set good mood. Find pleasure in small things and learn to admire surrounding beauty.
Someone can say, how to expect any beauty around, when you are at war or any other bad happening, but sometimes these small things you can find around you, may help you to survive bad times. Talk to people who had experience terrible things and ask them about it. During bad bad times, the hope can be like a miracle.

Third thing is to spread your positive mood and energy and it will come back to you.
Small things can do a lot, it’s enough to smile kindly to someone to make this person feel nice. You will find out how nice, when you will recive smile back to you too.

Ok, now it’s a little summary:
1 – think about nice things before bed time
2 – think about nice things when you wake up
3 – smile, it cost you nothing and can make big difference

I would like if you let me know after few days, how it works for you 🙂
Take care.

Nobody likes me

Todays World is so much about being nice to the others, that it’s sometimes make people to lie to you straight in your face. All because not hurting someone else feelings. That is so great. When is something wrong, I want to know about it and when I realise, that nobody told me nothing, I’m thinking “what is wrong with all those people”
Sometimes I think, honesty have lost its value.
Asking people for honesty may cause you will hear something, what you don’t want to hear. However, being honest, doesn’t mean to be rude, but also you don’t have to behave like a “sweet pussycat”, afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. It’s really not about it. Be honest, but also think.
Today’s people are like “keep on smiling” society, yeah everything is cool. Well, not, it isn’t.
Somebody ask you how he/she look in some clothes, is good to say how it really is.
If someone is wrong about soething and you know about it, why not to tell him about it?
Is it better to let him make mistake? Of course we are learning on mistakes, but without making mistakes we are also able to learn.
It’s happening even here, where people are writing and reading everyday. You may think, they have to be smart people. So look at comments sections. Most of it is like encouragement and agreement. It’s make me not sure, does people are really reading?
But I don’t know, maybe it’s something wrong with me.
Am I the only one who wnat discussion instead of sweetening?

When “too much” means “not good”

Do we understand well, what “do your best” really means?
When we are trying to achieve something and work as hard as possible and really do what is necessary for it, or even more and still not getting closer to reach our goal, then obviously, something is wrong. We may even not see this and think, that everything is ok, until one day. How is that possible?
How is possible to work so hard, do our best and to not see something is going wrong?
When we put too much effort, when we are trying too much, then it’s easy to lose perspective and miss a lot of things happens around us.
For example, I don’t have to write long posts, when the message is clear and understandable.
What for? Is it the point, to get people bored of reading, when it’s too much?
Is it the point to get people tired of you, when you are asking them every time about something, when for them is too much?
Trying too hard, doing too much is a trap!
Take a break, get perspective, find the balance.

Second chance

We have only one life and we should make it as best as possible. It’s nothing special, that we all making mistakes, from different reasons. We also have to remember, that life is simple, only people makes it difficult. Life is simple, also doesn’t mean it’s easy and pleasant, sometimes we have to make hard choices.
When someone will do something wrong or against us, we can get angry and now, the question is what to do? What is the best solution? Of course everything dependns from situation and circumstances. In most situations we can discuss and explain what and why had happened. Consequences are the next step. Mistakes can happen to anyone, we should understand this, because it can happen also to ourselves. Maybe not exactly the same thing, but it doesn’t change a fact. People are different, they think different, so it’s possible, that someone made mistake because, didn’t realised what it means for us. No matter the reason is, we can give second chance or not, it’s depends from us.
It’s about being good, forgiveness and so kind… but be careful, because second chance not always mean: ok I’m forgiving you, try again.
This may happen once and only once. The person have chance to change and now everything depends from this person. Remember, no excuses this time.
Because when you will give another chance for the same mistake, you are not giving a chance at all. If you want to say, it’s good to forgive that’s why I’m giving you one more chance, you are doing something bad. I’m very serious about that.
When someone f… up, there is only one chance, each next one, mean, that you are allowing this person for doing it over and over again. If someone used his chance and still doing the same mistakes, there is very small probability to change it.
The next chance in this case is to not allowing for reapiting this situation, is to end this.
In other way, this person won’t change and will be encouraged even more to keep this kind of behaviour, because will know, another chance is avalible.
For better example let’s take relationship. When partner is cheating on you and it was once, you can forgive and give a chance. Here partner have two options.
First, to change and stop cheating, keeping in mind, that partner’s trust is lost and have to work to rebuild it.
Second, to make empty promises but still cheating behind your back.
There is also third option, but it’s more like variety of the second one. Partner will stop cheating for some time and rebuild trust, then start cheating again.
When partner is still cheating, the only chance for change is to end relationship. Otherwise partner will recive “permission” for cheating and lose respect to you.
If you put yourself in this situation, then you are hurting yourself and your partner too.
You have to decide, is it ok for you, to be cheated, or no. Complaining and arguing with your partner doesn’t change a fact, that in reality, you are allowing for this situation exists.
When you decide to finish relationship, you are giving clear signal, what for you is right and what for you is wrong.
When you decide to end relationship, you are giving a chance to your partner for change, because your partner then, is losing you and only this can be a reason to see, that this kind of behaviour is not allowed and recived chance is wasted.
In other words, if first chance to change didn’t worked, second have to be different.
You cannot change someone, who don’t want it by himself.
Other example can be about work.
If you are the boss, and you catch your worker on stealing, you can give him a second chance (first was hiring him, in relationship, first chance is being with you) and keep your employee at work.
But if your worker will steal again, will he stop when you give him another chance?
After first time, your employee should try as best as possible and proof he is worth of trust.
If the situation is repeat again, the other chance for this worker is to fired him.
Maybe in next job he will not do it again, realising the consequences.
Don’t allow for stealing, it’s not good for both, boss and employee. If you know, that your worker is in difficult situation, there are other things to help, but never allow people to consider wrong behaviour can be justified.

Demoralizating others is not a good thing, it’s harmful for them, their families and rest of society.