How to blogging

I saw many posts with advices how to blogging or tricks how to make your blog more popular etc.
This post will be pretty different than the other posts touching this subject.
At the beginning answer to yourself, why you are (or want) blogging.
If your goal is to have as many followers as possible or plenty of likes, this post is not for you and honestly, you can stop reading at this moment. I don’t want to lose your time and energy.

Blogging is really great tool for many things, you can incrase your writing skills and writing style, learn languages, find new friends, talk with people from around the World, discover different ideas, cultures, cuisines and more.
Blogging can be also kind of therapy or form to confront your ideas with other people (it’s not the same what discovering new ideas).
Now, I’ll try to make a list

1. Be yourself and lead your blog in your way, don’t look on likes, if you are blogging for your own satisfaction, don’t chase for applause.
It’s nice when you see, that people like your blog but in my opinion it’s better, when it’s happens naturally. I’m not saying here, that using community pool or other ways to let people know about your blog is something wrong, however I think it’s good to have distance for chasing after popularity.

2. Be honest. Don’t be afraid to write critical comment, when you feel it. Only keep in mind, that no matter is it critical comment or not, make it constructive. For example of not critical comment – you like some fellow blogger and started reading post which is very long, it’s nothing wrong to say you don’t have enough time to read it to the end.
Lack of time happens to everyone. I would like to read a lot of blogs from the bloggers who I like but I simply don’t have enough time for it. I chose to write instead of reading, because after reading post about blogging tricks I just feel to write it and it’s bit too long for the comment.

3. Show respect. If you want be respected, also respect others. Simple?
How to show respect? By reading posts of other bloggers and gives likes when you really like it. Comment as often as you can. Comments encourage more than likes and shows, that you have read the post. In oder words – treat others like you would like to be treated.
It may not gain you a lot of readers and followers but at least those who are reading your blog can be really interested of your writing.

4. Write short posts. If you want incrase numbers of readers, let yourself to write short posts time to time it allow to read it for those who doeasn’t have much time at the momment but accidently saw your post.

5. Don’t read posts of other people when you don’t want to. Don’t pretend you did read when you didn’t. It doesn’t make sense. There are some people who are interested to writing only and that is absolutelly ok. Some of them are really good in writing, some are not, some of them have a lot of followers, some other not.

6. Don’t lie to yourself. If you are not intrested with some subject, there is really small chance that you will like it later, so you don’t need to follow all who are following you.
For example how big chance is, that I will be interested of which face powder is propriate for my skin… I know that some men are using this stuff, but I’m not interested and there is nothing showing that it will change. However it’s nice when you check who gave you like, comment or following you and let them know about it.

7. Enjoy.
When you like some post/s press like, it’s not hurt or take much time. Sometimes we like the post and can’t find good words for a comment, that’s ok. Sometimes we like only one post on someone’s blog, it’s fine, we don’t need to follow and other people don’t have to follow our blog even when they are reading our blog. Don’t put pressure on yourself or anyone else, just enjoy of writing, reading, blogging.

Have a good time 🙂

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Millennium review (introduction)

Few days ago I was writing about passing time, how we feel it and how it may trick us.
It was also about crossing into 21st century. Later I thought “wait a minute, we are not only crossing into new century, we are also crossing in new millenium”. Someone may say it already happend but in my opinion we only made very first step into it. Into 21st century, so what to say about new millennium.
At this week I will try my best to do a summary and review of passed millenium to find maybe a new point of view on the future or at least on my expectations about it.

If in the meantime, I will have some brilliant idea about Valentine’s Day (another great advice like yesterday 😀 ) or other topic, of course you will find out about it 🙂

Havea nice day 🙂

Being attractive

It’s enough to put the word “attractive” to make thoughts to go on some track and forget about, that attractive comes from attract, attraction, force of attratcion and so on.
After publicizing “I’ve become superman!” post I was surprised how many people opened it. I don’t know what made it so attractive to readers, title or featured image which is the warning about explict lyrics. Ok, you may say it’s not so many visitors I had, but for me after one post it was probably more than any other post I’ve wrote.
So I wonder what is more attractive – being superman or explict lyrics warning 😀
Sorry if current title was deceptive, I only want to check does this featured image will attract people. If not, that will probably mean it was superman 😉
By the way, do you remember which of your post was so much attractive to other readers and you didn’t expected at all?
Thank you for your attention, sorry for lack of explict lyrics and have a nice day 🙂

Does pretty girls have easier in life?

Wha experience as a man, I can have to talk about this?
Well, as a man, none. Even as a girl may be not enough.
But as a pretty sexy girl… I didn’t have to wait long time to see how it is.
How could I check this? In easiest possible way, I’ve created account on facebook.
Fake account with sexy girl in the profile picture and it was enough to post one comment which was “The devil is not so black, as he is painted” to incrase facebook friends from 0 to over 100 in just few hours. On that account I’m receiving countless messages, sexual messages from men. From men who sent invitation to become their friends and they have not idea who I am. There are also a lot of girls and women who send me invitation, fortunatelly, girls are not texting sexual messages to me. It may be really annoing when is happening in real life, real person. The communication about new message are beeping all the time and that’s not nice messages, most of them are just rude.
The other question is, why you send invitation to person who you don’t know?
Facebook is a strange place but people can be really scary.
Let’s go back to the main question, does pretty girls have easier in life?
Well from perspective of a fake facebook account, all those people are doing a lot of things what I’m asking for, but this is not because they are so nice, they want something in exchange, like naked picture, date, or panties, yes you see good, there are even men who are asking to send them my panties. They could be in shock when they will recive my real pants…
Why people are like that? Why men are so primal? Why they think about sex, when they only see a nice face? there is nothing sexual on this account, only a picture of a face, so wtf is wrong with them? I’m talking about people from around of the World and account is not even in english.
You know what, I’ve never done anything like that, as well as many other men, but no matter if you are gentleman or not, because of this kind behaviour, all men are in the one bag.
Now is not surprising for me, why girls/women so often saying: men think only about sex.
Now, with this new experience, I’m affraid, that if I will look on a girl or woman and just smile, not even say anything, or not even smiling, just look, then I’m already thinking about sex with her, in her mind. But of course I can not be sure of that although I have new experience I still cannot judge does it easier to be a pretty girl, but it’s really tiring.
At least I have new perspective, to see a little bit how it is from a girl point of view.

Respect each other and think before you send invitation to someone who you don’t know, you may be not only surprised but also you can bring troubles to yourself. It’s very easy to recive personal information by social media, which should be kept only for you.
Don’t be shy to leave comment, I’m interested to hear your opinion.
Have a nice day.

The power of value

Have you ever wonder what is the greatest power in the entire World?
I think it’s the power of unity. United people can be unstoppable force…
But I don’t think is possible to unite humanity. We all have different values and for some reason it’s very hard for us to reach agreement or at least compromise. There always will be some people, who would like to rule and dictates conditions to the others of how to live and what is right or wrong. Those who desire power will do what they can to keep people (societies) divided. The reason is simple, when society is divided then is easier to rule. Divided society is just weak, not speak with one voice, not demand changes for better living and is easier to be steering by rulers. Divided society fighting against each other in effect of manipulation, without searching for logical solutions and compromises.
If I will ask, what is most valueable for you? there will be different answers, this is one of the reasons why we have to live in some compromises and respect to each other as much as selfrespect. It will also help to not abuse other people. Sometimes we by ourselves agree to being abused, because of the situation, because we want something.
Why we have to work? To live? To pay for food and for a house? To pay for anything?
So we are selling ourselves, because someone said so.
Why we have to pay? Because someone said so. Because someone made the rules, which had to be fair. But where it leaded us? What does it created? Greed.
Yes, yes, I know, money are needed for many reasons and they are easy to calculate value of everything. But is it really “of everything”? Does everything is on sale?
Money and other things are worth only this what we can give for it.
You want to find what is the real value of oney, then take as much as you can and go there where is no other man lives. Then you will find out what your money gives to you.
People are the power and the value, but we forgetting about this so often.
Respect and take care about people. Do you respect yourself? Do you want to be respected? How you want to be treated?
Of course I’m taking money for my work, but it doesn’t matter for me, how much I will earn, I will always do my best. Why? Because I’m doing it for the others and I will not do something what can harm someone.
Ok, World is not perfect place, because of our weaknesses, ignorance and arrogance.
Some people think, that they are better than others, some other think they are worse.
But we are just different. I know that some people are sick, violent, have mental problems, but this is not the point. The worst situation is when those people get the power to rule, then bad things are happening.
So what we can do? We can unite, at least in some particular things.
I know, this what I’m writing is like utopia, but do we really like this World how it is?
Cannot we make it a better place? Everything depends from us, not from U.S., but from US, us people.
How will look any reform, country or anything without people?
How will look war when soldiers from each side will refuse to fight? There will be no war, because who will fight? Our great leaders? No way, they are only strong to tell us what to do, how to live and to send soldiers to the front, to kill each other.
Are we so different to kill each other? Are we the enemies to each others?
Are we really so different, that we can accept it and live together on same planet? Is it really so hard? What is wrong with us?
Only rulers wants wars and convincing people, that it’s good. So if the rulers want to fight, let them fight with them selves, but let people to live their lifes.
What kind of reform will work without people? Only people are the factor which make the difference and things to work, not empty words and promises of politicians.
We, simple people, nations, societies, we have the real power, but we give this power to our governments…
We want governments to work for good of people and nation, to live in the place where is justice and where we can feel free and be happy. But because of some people we can’t enjoy it, as much as we should. There is always somone who brings oppression is it government or criminals or boss at work, who want us to work faster and longer and it will be the best if we will work for free…
Do I think my post will change something? I don’t think it will change the World, but maybe it will make that some of us will start look different on some things in life.
Maybe some will think a little bit about this what is valueable and accept, that for someone else, it can have different value. However it dosen’t mean to not respect values of others.
No matter where on this planet we live,we can be different, but we are not the enemies.
Let’s respect each other, it can make a big difference.

Forcing yourself – when it’s good and when it’s not

When it will provide positive consequneces. I like to go straight to the point 🙂
For those who would like to read a little bit more about this, here it is.
Why to force yourself to do anything you don’t want to do at all?
Because life is not about doing nice and pleasent things all the time and sometimes we simply need to do things, which we would like to avoid.
Why?
To live. We don’t have to do things, which doesn’t make us to live. It might be different things like eating, cleaning (yes cleaning and it’s important thing which can help you to stay healthy), working, etc. Ok, you may have a job you like and enjoy, you may have a house keeper and you don’t have to clean anything, so I gues, you’re the lucky one.
But even then it’s good to force yourself to do the hard things, just to appreciate this what you have. To change the point of view.
The other case is when you are doing something creative and it’s doesn’t matter is it part of your job or just a hobby, then it’s good to not force you to do this things when you don’t feel it. It wont be as good as it should be. Then it’s good to do different things, to make a break, to relax, or change enviroment.
When it’s happening for a long time and you feel it as a long time is good, because it’s mean you miss for it. Then you may try to force yourself to do it again, to feel it again.
But it have to be “you” by yourself, don’t try to be someone who you are not.

Why I’ve started blogging

When I’m starting to write this post I don’t know how far it will go, so at the beggining I have to warn you it can be inappropriate story, especially if you are underage.

You have been warned.

In the section about me you can find what I’m writing about. In this post I’m going to clarify why it is like this.
I had no intentions to write about myself, but because some thoughts doesn’t give me peace and recently becoming even stronger and brings more anxiety I decided to throw it out from myself. I’m treating blogging as a kind of therapy, posting my thoughts about things which are important for me, but not personal things about my life.
I’m not convinced does internet is a right place to share facts from personal life, but I’m struggling last days more and more and feel like I have nothing to lose, so here I’m.
From the other hand all informations I may put here are not secret, that someone can use it against me, but still personal.
I hope to feel relief after publishing it, will that happen, I have no idea…
It’s highly possible I’ll be jumping from one topic to another and losing sense, but I hope not.
In India 15th of August is Independence day(more informations about it you can find here on The Shining Gem’s post
https://theshininggem.wordpress.com/2017/08/15/have-we-really-been-independent/
or here on beyOnd woRds_ post
https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/133959409/posts/25).
In my country we have two different holidays at same time, what brought me one thought, If I’m celebrating everyday, am I celebrating at all? When you are doing something everyday it becomess to be a norm, which means normal. So I should say, that I’m never celebrating, instead I’m trying to appreaciate every single day of my life enjoying of surrounding world as much as possible. But it have been almost a year since I can’t find peace. There was something terrible happened in my life, made my own world collapsed for several months. I can’t stop asking myself why some things in my life had happened, I can’t find explanation. Some of my posts are attempts to find out of how some things are working and is it possible it was this or not…
Moving more back into past, few years ago I was about to start my life once again and I had plans to move to Canada. Why there? Because it’s far enough for a new beggining and I have a friend there, so it makes things easy, because if you don’t know something, you have someone trusted to ask about it.
I didn’t go only because I’ve met the girl and started relationship. But it wasn’t just a girl, it was girl, which I knew from childhood, so I thought, she is the person I know really well…
Rest of the story might be to personal but also might be necessary to explain few important things.
She was about to quit her marriage, which wasn’t very well, they didn’t lived together everything was about to be the end and she was the one to start our relationship, so I felt justified.
I’ve broken one of my own rules, dating with married woman, it’s bad, no matter what is happening in the marriage, don’t get in between…
They’ve finished it and we could be together…
After few month I found out she was cheating on me, we have spoken, I gave her second chance and everything seemed to be good.
When I said good I mean really good, at least this is how I saw that. But from the other hand it seem that she also was happy with me, because we got married last year, April 30th…
Less than half year she met another guy and exactly six months after our wedding, our married was destroyed. I was trying to fix it, even when I haven’t done anything wrong, or if I did, she never told me about it. But for real and seriously I have no idea what could I’ve done wrong, I’m respectful, not beating, not drinking, I’m not addicted to hazard or anything… her family also new me since childhood, so we had good relations.
With my wife we was traveling, we had great plans etc. I broughts flowers and took care of her and maybe I was just doing too much. Yes, it’s possible, if you’re doing too much the other person can have enough and feel bad about that. But what you expect from your partner is conversation. If something is wrong, let your partner know about that, no one is a mind reader.
At this moment you can think, what’s your problem man? those things happens…
That’s right and if it end on this I would be angry, sad and disappointed by some time, but the worst thing was who she met. The guy was kind of manipulator with some psychological problems and he was convincing her, that she is possessed…
You can think how this is even possible, that she was with this kind of person and even today I have no idea about that. In result she attempted to commit suicide by three times…
Somwhere in between all this happenings she asked me to move out…
I was still trying to take care about her and fix our marriage.
When you getting marriage you swaer to be with your beloved to the end of your days and for me promises at all are sacred, you can’t break given word…
It is so naive from my side, of course people are not keeping their promises…
But it doesn’t mean, that I have to be the same as others.

From all this stressful situations I’ve lost around 80-90 pounds, I was looking really bad…
You can see me before and today, writing this post, fortunatelly I don’t have any picture from around 6-8 months ago, when was the worst time for me…


In our wedding anniversary I gave up completely. I had wrote few posts before, but it was still to early for that, so we can say I’ve started probably in June.
So now you can find out what makes some of my posts a little bit bitter…

Now I’m waiting for divorce case in october, which makes me think about all of this more and more everyday, because I don’t know what is right to do.
When the judge will ask is it true that is no one fault our marriage ends I can say it’s not, because as I believe you have to pay the price for your actions, but from the other side I’m affraid that she can attemp to commit suicide again.
Someone can say, why to worry about this, it’s not my problem anymore, but we are talking about other human beign and it’s deffinately inappropriate to the guilt.
So this is it…

I always wanted to provide happy life (as everyone of course, only for each person it can have different meaning). Live with beloved wife traveling together and fulfill eachother, support eachother have someone to miss for when we cannot be together etc. very simple things. Now my faith in it is damaged and I’m trying to rebuilt it.
It’s one of conditions before I will meet someone new, the other is divorce.
You can say I’m complaining, but am I? What I’m doing right now is trying to throw out all the pain from the inside…
Now I’m 34 years old and I see a lot of things the same as before and the same as I was much younger. In my age it’s more like I’m realise where I am in my life and see more while looking back into past, I can see how fast life is going and I’m more serious about my life. What can be interesting, I don’t think about myself as about old or middle age man and deffinately I don’t feel it at all. Last time I even thought about how it is, that some men hitting to much younger girls and by some part it can be this, because when I’m talking with 20 years old girl I don’t feel the difference between us and I have to realize that it’s 14 years! But I remember when I was about 20 years old, someone 34 years old seemed as at least middle age to me. It’s interesting how perspective can change with time.
I was always taking life in positive way and it didn’t changed, even when I know World never will be a perfect place, I’m still trying to make it better, but I’m trying speak to a reason which is harder than speak to emotions. All the “great leaders” who made masses to follow them had spoke to emotions and as more primal and stronger emotions they had spoken to, as greater masses they moved.
World without money and wars is theoretically possible, theoretically…
Still if we cannot do it perfect, we can work to do it better.
Finally this post doesn’t seem to be inappropriate, which is good.
As is kind of relief for me, I hope you can find it as helpful somehow for you.

At the end I would like to thank those bloggers who are reading each my posts, I appreciate it.
Thank You.